The Beauty of Large Families *Mindful Mothering Mondays*

I love big families. I love seeing lines of kids of varying heights walking behind a proud papa and happy (tired) mama. I really love that, it reminds me of being a kid at church, watching some of the families walk in to the main hall. All of their sweeties dressed up nicely behind them, boys in little suits with ties, passed down from oldest brother all the way to the youngest. The girls usually had hair brushed and fixed by the eldest girl, all the same. The dresses they wore were sweet and modest.

But I never considered having a "big" family myself. (Our family only has 5 kids, me being the oldest, 3 boys followed by my baby sister.) When I got pregnant at 22, unmarried, I never considered more than 2 kids. I wanted them close in age. I wanted them to be best friends like I was with my 14 months younger brother. This was not to be the case.

Rhaynnon was an only until 4 1/2, then we had Gwen and I did long for a 3rd, and hopefully a sweet little brown eyed boy. For another few years we discussed a 3rd baby until Will deployed and Gwen was 3. We decided that we might be done. However when he came home, we changed our minds and had Natalie, 5 1/2 years Gwen's junior.

Having our kids spread out so much makes life hard I think. When one child is 11 and starting to enter puberty she is less likely to play the imagination games of the nearly 7 year old, and the 7 year old likes things "just so" which makes playing with the baby hard.

I know that having a big family would be hard, too. Or having all three in a 5 year period (looking at you sweet sis) or even 3 years (and you brother and sil!) But I can imagine how much happier your kids will be at school. With built in friends on family vacations. Because I remember how much better off I was, I knew no one would ever hurt me without the wrath of Garrett. I knew that even though we went on a 3 week tour of the Midwest, I would have my siblings there to keep me entertained.

I know I can't go back in time and change the way we've brought these beautiful children into the world. I wouldn't want to change them in any way. I can only hope to do what is best for them, now in this moment, and hope that they will learn what they need to before moving on to the next part of life.


Lydia said...

Family size and make up is always interesting to me. I think there are pros and cons to many different situations. We will have 6 before my oldest turns 10, and I must say I am a bit envious of those who have older kids to help out when a new baby arrives! Or those who stop at 2 and move on with their lives. I know, coming from a family of 7 children, that my kids are now and will always be blessings to one another. So even on the rough days, I've got that to hold onto.

Anonymous said...

Not only is doing the right things important (praying, attoning for your sins, thinking the right way:::accepting humility, modesty, vulnerability), so is avoiding the wrong things important as well:::"Go and sin no more".

There was a very real perception that bi-racial was much worse for the white than it was for the person of color. The liberal culture screamed racism when there is a very reasonable explanation for this reality::::
In this white punishment known as the United States the person of color has already adopted the disfavors/temptations intended for another race. But by associating/mating with a person of color the white is newly adopting the disfavors of another culture.
And this is the reason why people of color are not welcome in the United States. The gods control everything:::The perception they want to create, the thoughts they want you to have.
People of color can't recover from absorbing the temptations from two cultures. And why they become more and more like so many blacks in America:::Veterans at absorbing the temptations of two cultures.
To further illustrate this is why California's educational system/funding was ranked #1 when California was white:::Education being the basis of the affluent economic system. Now even public higher education has become unaffordable.

The gods placed us all into our own corners of the globe. As such for thousands of years we spent time and reproduced with out own kind.
This is why mobilty/travel, biracial unions/offspring and partaking of other cultures is a sin::::
Each has it's own elements of disfavor, and by experiencing other cultures you are being exposed to these disfavors, which if people may adopt will make their state even worse than prior.
The United States has been considered a "melting pot" where rejects from around the world were sent when kicked out of their motherland.
Remember, this concept of cultural diversity is an element of the liberal platform the gods used to promote societal decay, revealed on the map with the "beast" that is the SanFranciscoBayArea and the spread of social deterioration that spread to the rest of the country and eventually to the entire globe.

Ronald Reagan spent the communist block into submission with defense buildup, and in the process increased the National debt from $1 trillion in 1980 to $6 trillion when he left office.
W charged both the Iraq and Afghanistan wars to the national debt, honest numbers to come.
The gods used W to initiate the "Great Recession" with deliberate legislation/regulation changes, allowing the sub-prime fiasco and corporate irresponsibility/criminal behavior which led to the multi-trillion dollar stimulous package, pocketted by Republican friends and donors::::$5 trillion charged to the National credit card.
This corruption is one element of evil in the party of good. War mongering is another.
Damned if you do, Damned if you don't::::With the Democrats you subscribe to social decay via liberlism, which WILL lead to the Apocalypse. Republicans are being used by the gods to bankrupt the United States, ultimately motivating people to the point of "desperation prayer" once anarchy presides::::Punishment designed to correct your behavior.

I have showed you how to think the correct way, using an example to illustrate. Let's see how many "reverse positioning" examples you can find. There are more.

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